Ever wondered about couples counseling?  Just exactly who goes to it and why?  Or, maybe you’ve been in couples/marital counseling/therapy for a while, and it just isn’t getting you anywhere, or at least it doesn’t seem so.   Well, Dr. Goulston, one the Psychology Today bloggers, has something to say to say about this.  Check […]

Click on Dr. Mark Goulston’s name at the end of this sentence for another gem of a post by Dr. Mark Gulston, from Psychology Today. Check it out–you will not be disappointed!  He explains direct connection between listening and happy marriages, and the connection between divorce and not listening. Do you have a listening story […]

Change your Thinking- Improve Conflict Management If you really want to improve your communication skills, particularly related to conflict management, it’s crucial to begin with changing your thinking.  For the moment, forget about finding new skills, getting new tools.  Start with changing your thinking. New thinking helps create new and effective patterns of conflict management, […]

Communication: Competitive  vs Cooperative We are taught from the earliest of ages that good communication is imperative.  In both subtle,  and direct ways, we are taught to be competitive when we communicate.  Simultaneously, we are told to be cooperative.  What an impossible task–to be cooperative and competitive at the same time. The conundrum we are […]

The following is an article from Psychology Today, and it hits the nail on the head about essential rules that can guide you when managing conflict. You will find it at this link: Psychology Today Wishing you a satisfying relationship, Jim Hutt, Ph.D., MFT ©2011 CounselorLink.com