Turns out that it’s the little things that make the biggest differences in the day to day routine with our partners/spouses that leave a couple feeling closer to, and safer with, each other. Try the following, and note the responses: –Catch your partner in the act of doing something you like and point it out… […]

  Because we are social animals, and because it feels so good, we all want to get connected, be connected, and stay connected. But, we often forget, one of the primary reasons for being connected has to do with survival: Without connection, we simply do not survive. Problem is, it doesn’t seem to be that […]

Click on Dr. Mark Goulston’s name at the end of this sentence for another gem of a post by Dr. Mark Gulston, from Psychology Today. Check it out–you will not be disappointed!  He explains direct connection between listening and happy marriages, and the connection between divorce and not listening. Do you have a listening story […]

Communication: Competitive  vs Cooperative We are taught from the earliest of ages that good communication is imperative.  In both subtle,  and direct ways, we are taught to be competitive when we communicate.  Simultaneously, we are told to be cooperative.  What an impossible task–to be cooperative and competitive at the same time. The conundrum we are […]

How To Be Understood: Back To Basics Conflict between couples is both inevitable and ubiquitous.  In the middle of the fight du jour churns the desire to be understood.  How in our world are we to comprehend what our partner is so desperately trying to convey?  How in their world are we to transmit to […]