Seems one person or the other of a couple wants the other one to read their mind. This is what they tell me in my office : “He should KNOW what I like/want/need without my having to tell him. If I have to tell him what I want, well, then it doesn’t mean […]

  One way to undercut a relationship is by not managing conflict effectively. And that will usually occur one of two ways: Either you are afraid of conflict, and avoid it, or your methods of managing conflict render you more like a bull in a china shop than like a loving partner. Both methods may […]

  Because we are social animals, and because it feels so good, we all want to get connected, be connected, and stay connected. But, we often forget, one of the primary reasons for being connected has to do with survival: Without connection, we simply do not survive. Problem is, it doesn’t seem to be that […]

One of the most painful and difficult experiences to recover from is that of betrayal. Obviously, infidelity is one form of betrayal, but there are many others as well.  Rather than list the possible range of betrayals, do the following: 1.  Find a pen or pencil and some paper so you can take some notes. […]

In my practice, I see so many couples who say they are seeking help for improving their communication skills. They work so hard adding to their communication tool belt, but typically feel disappointed that their relationships don’t seem to improve consistent with the number of communication techniques they’ve acquired. Well, that’s because there is so much more than at play […]