July 10th, 2012
Reducing Defensiveness There are several things that get in the way of relationship satisfaction, and I suppose it’s up for debate as to which one is the most destructive. The one I see most frequently in my office, usually on a daily basis, is defensiveness. From what I can tell, no one is immune–we ALL […]
Tags: being understood, communication, conflict, conflict resolution, couple in conflict, Defensiveness, intimacy, menlo park counseling
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July 3rd, 2012
Yelling at Children This is a topic that has meaning for everyone. All of us have raised our voices, probably more than once. No, I did not come from a home of screaming parents or siblings. However, I do see many families and couples who yell a lot at each other, and the short […]
Tags: communication, conflict, Couples, menlo park counseling, safe marriage couples conflict honesty, yelling
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May 10th, 2012
How To Re-Build Trust As you can see by the title, the word “re-build” implies that the trust between the two of may have been damaged. The damage may range from minimal to substantial. The range of events that can have a negative impact on trust goes from minor things that we say we […]
Tags: conflict, Couples, menlo park counseling, re-build trust, rebuilding trust, safe marriage couples conflict honesty
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December 11th, 2011
One way to undercut a relationship is by not managing conflict effectively. And that will usually occur one of two ways: Either you are afraid of conflict, and avoid it, or your methods of managing conflict render you more like a bull in a china shop than like a loving partner. Both methods may […]
Tags: communication, conflict, conflict avoidance, conflict resolution, fear of fighting, help for couples, menlo park counseling, Relationships, safe marriage couples conflict honesty
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October 10th, 2011
I have been in practice long enough to see many couples and families develop over the the past thirty years. While there are countless stories over a full range of of topics, one that greatly interests me involves divorce. Many couples and individuals have come to counseling after divorcing fifteen, twenty or twenty five years […]
Tags: communication, conflict, conflict resolution, couple in conflict, Couples, divorce, menlo park counseling, Relationships
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