“We Need Communication Tools” Part II This is the second installment of a multi-part series spot-lighting some of the more common and complex, hard-to-break communication patterns most couples encounter at one time or another as they manage conflict. Possessing the tools for building a house does not necessarily mean you know how to build.  Without […]

What “We Don’t Communicate” Really Means Part I This is the first of a multi-part series spotlighting some of the more common and complex,  hard to break communication patterns most couples encounter at one time or another as they manage conflict. After thirty years in practice,  I notice the two most frequently made opening comments […]

CounselorLetter Blame & Defensiveness Damage Relationships Conflict is unavoidable. We all face it daily whether with a spouse, sibling, friend, employer, boyfriend, girlfriend or stranger. Blame is one element of conflict that tends to inhibit conflict management. What is Blame? When viewed from one perspective, blame is the placing of responsibility on the object or […]