CounselorLetter Blame & Defensiveness Damage Relationships Conflict is unavoidable. We all face it daily whether with a spouse, sibling, friend, employer, boyfriend, girlfriend or stranger. Blame is one element of conflict that tends to inhibit conflict management. What is Blame? When viewed from one perspective, blame is the placing of responsibility on the object or […]

CounselorLetter The Perfect Mate–Part 2 (“Perfect Mate, Part 1” is here) As you can tell from reading The Perfect Mate, Part 1, there really isn’t “the” perfect mate. Perhaps the most important notion to keep in mind is that the closest thing to perfection we can achieve in a relationship is providing a safe environment […]

Are Relationship Difficulties Not Responding To New Communication Skills? Learn Why That Is And How To Create The Marriage You Want! When I use the word “marriage” I include you who live with a partner, whether or not you are married. I am talking about ANYONE who is serious about their commitment to their relationship, […]

CounselorLetter THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS: WHAT ARE THEY AND HOW DO THEY DIFFER? WHY DOES IT MATTER? WHAT THEY ARE AND HOW THEY DIFFER Thoughts: Thoughts convey to the listener what we are thinking. Sometimes these are referred to as cognitions. Thoughts and beliefs (another form of thought) usually precede our emotional or feeling state(s). The […]

CounselorLetter The Perfect Mate (“Perfect Mate, Part 2” is here) The quest for the perfect mate clogs the online dating services. As Hope springs eternal, prospects who venture into the land of online dating seem to be in search of the perfect mate. Who can blame them? We all want to be wanted and loved. […]