Turns out that it’s the little things that make the biggest differences in the day to day routine with our partners/spouses that leave a couple feeling closer to, and safer with, each other. Try the following, and note the responses: –Catch your partner in the act of doing something you like and point it out… […]

How To Be Understood: Back To Basics Conflict between couples is both inevitable and ubiquitous.  In the middle of the fight du jour churns the desire to be understood.  How in our world are we to comprehend what our partner is so desperately trying to convey?  How in their world are we to transmit to […]

CounselorLetter DIFFERENTIATION & PERSONAL INQUIRY Differentiation is a clinical term, and when therapists talk or write about it, it often leads to confusion.  I’m going to try anyway, because I think the concept  is a good one, and can be helpful  for couples who are trying to make their relationship more satisfying.  It is a […]