CounselorLetter This issue of CounselorLetter will focus on apology. Apparently Elton John was so accurate when he said, in one of his songs, “Sorry seems to be the hardest word.” The complaint that apologies are offered too infrequently and insincerely is near the top of the list couples mention in my office.  The desire for, […]

CounselorLetter DIFFERENTIATION & PERSONAL INQUIRY Differentiation is a clinical term, and when therapists talk or write about it, it often leads to confusion.  I’m going to try anyway, because I think the concept  is a good one, and can be helpful  for couples who are trying to make their relationship more satisfying.  It is a […]

CounselorLetter The Perfect Mate–Part 2 (“Perfect Mate, Part 1” is here) As you can tell from reading The Perfect Mate, Part 1, there really isn’t “the” perfect mate. Perhaps the most important notion to keep in mind is that the closest thing to perfection we can achieve in a relationship is providing a safe environment […]

Are Relationship Difficulties Not Responding To New Communication Skills? Learn Why That Is And How To Create The Marriage You Want! When I use the word “marriage” I include you who live with a partner, whether or not you are married. I am talking about ANYONE who is serious about their commitment to their relationship, […]

Half Of All Marriages End In Divorce You do not have to be on the painful end of that statistic! First of all, when I use the word ‘marriage:’ I use the word in a manner that includes those who have decided to live together regardless of whether or not they have had a traditional […]