How To Be Understood: Back To Basics Conflict between couples is both inevitable and ubiquitous.  In the middle of the fight du jour churns the desire to be understood.  How in our world are we to comprehend what our partner is so desperately trying to convey?  How in their world are we to transmit to […]

I want your input!  Why?  Because what you want matters to me. Tell me what aspect of managing conflict, managing your relationship, or any other aspect of your relationship you would like to see become part of my new program.  The name of that program? RE-BOOTING YOUR RELATIONSHIP 2.0! This extensive program is nearing completion, and […]

Typically when a couple has something they want to talk about, one says to the other:  “Hey, let’s have a talk about, …fill in the blank.”  But here’s the thing–we’ve all been trained to TALK, but we have not been adequately trained to LISTEN effectively.  So, imagine starting a conversation this way: “Hey, let’s have […]

“If I have To Ask, It Doesn’t Mean As Much!! Do you ever wish your partner could read your mind? What I mean is, have your partner anticipate your desire so that you don’t have to ask for whatever it is you want? Well, for sure, NOT having your mind read has been a source […]

Your partner isn’t the problem, at least not as much s you think, but your BRAIN is! Imagine that. And the irony is that your brain is just doing its job! Alright, so here’s the deal: We have not just one, but three brains. One brain in particular–the limbic brain, otherwise known as the mammalian […]