“Relief Divorce”–Don’t Fall In To The Trap

October 10th, 2011

I have been in practice long enough to see many couples and families develop over the the past thirty years.  While there are countless stories over a full range of of topics,  one that greatly interests me involves divorce. Many couples and individuals have come to counseling after divorcing fifteen, twenty or twenty five years […]


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Integrity: The Core of Relationships

September 26th, 2011

        The file below is an audio file, approximately one hour in length.  It is Dr. Jim Hutt being interviewed by Dr. Peter Pearson of the Couples Institute, in Menlo Park, CA. The subject of the interview: Integrity: The Core of Relationships.  Even thought it’s long, give it a listen, and post […]


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Couples Counseling–Who’s It for?

August 24th, 2011

Ever wondered about couples counseling?  Just exactly who goes to it and why?  Or, maybe you’ve been in couples/marital counseling/therapy for a while, and it just isn’t getting you anywhere, or at least it doesn’t seem so.   Well, Dr. Goulston, one the Psychology Today bloggers, has something to say to say about this.  Check […]


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The Power of Listening

July 27th, 2011

Click on Dr. Mark Goulston’s name at the end of this sentence for another gem of a post by Dr. Mark Gulston, from Psychology Today. Check it out–you will not be disappointed!  He explains direct connection between listening and happy marriages, and the connection between divorce and not listening. Do you have a listening story […]


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Resentful Compliance vs Commitment

June 27th, 2011

The focus of this post is to elaborate on two related themes: One, the differences between resentful compliance and commitment; Two, how understanding those differences can alter the course of a relationship. Resentful Compliance Resentful compliance is an agreement that is not an agreement, but sounds like one.  Right away you can see the potential […]


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