Reconnecting At The End Of The Day

June 7th, 2013

At the beginning of a relationship it is easy for two people to connect with one another. We loved coming home at the end of the day and being asked:  “How was your day?” All the kisses, the hugs, the conversations, the sex, the whole nine yards felt sweeter than honey! With the passage of […]

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What REALLY Changes A Relationship?

May 29th, 2013

It is often said that successful people do the things that unsuccessful people either don’t want to do, can’t do, or won’t do. I have found in all my years of doing counseling with couples, that the same axiom holds true for them: happy couples do the things that less happy or unhappy couples don’t […]

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Secrets To Reducing Defensiveness

July 10th, 2012

Reducing Defensiveness There are several things that get in the way of relationship satisfaction, and I suppose it’s up for debate as to which one is the most destructive. The one I see most frequently in my office, usually on a daily basis, is defensiveness.  From what I can tell, no one is immune–we ALL […]

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Little Things Make BIG Differences

February 15th, 2012

Turns out that it’s the little things that make the biggest differences in the day to day routine with our partners/spouses that leave a couple feeling closer to, and safer with, each other. Try the following, and note the responses: –Catch your partner in the act of doing something you like and point it out… […]

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How To Be A Mind Reader

February 8th, 2012

      Seems one person or the other of a couple wants the other one to read their mind. This is what they tell me in my office : “He should KNOW what I like/want/need without my having to tell him. If I have to tell him what I want, well, then it doesn’t mean […]

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