One way to undercut a relationship is by not managing conflict effectively. And that will usually occur one of two ways: Either you are afraid of conflict, and avoid it, or your methods of managing conflict render you more like a bull in a china shop than like a loving partner. Both methods may be [...]

  Because we are social animals, and because it feels so good, we all want to get connected, be connected, and stay connected. But, we often forget, one of the primary reasons for being connected has to do with survival: Without connection, we simply do not survive. Problem is, it doesn’t seem to be that [...]

I have been in practice long enough to see many couples and families develop over the the past thirty years.  While there are countless stories over a full range of of topics,  one that greatly interests me involves divorce. Many couples and individuals have come to counseling after divorcing fifteen, twenty or twenty five years [...]

        The file below is an audio file, approximately one hour in length.  It is Dr. Jim Hutt being interviewed by Dr. Peter Pearson of the Couples Institute, in Menlo Park, CA. The subject of the interview: Integrity: The Core of Relationships.  Even thought it’s long, give it a listen, and post [...]

Ever wondered about couples counseling?  Just exactly who goes to it and why?  Or, maybe you’ve been in couples/marital counseling/therapy for a while, and it just isn’t getting you anywhere, or at least it doesn’t seem so.   Well, Dr. Goulston, one the Psychology Today bloggers, has something to say to say about this.  Check [...]