CONSIDERATION VS. PERMISSION
Don’t you hate to approach your spouse/partner with questions that can elicit the answer “NO!”? For example: “Honey, is it OK if I …(fill in the blank)?” Or, “Can I …(fill in the blank)?” Some of you guys out there, more than once, have implored your partner/spouse: “Can I go bowling tonight?” And [...]
Immediately Reduce Conflict By 50%–Here’s How
In the physician’s office you’re not likely to query your doctor about his/her ailments. If you did, your own problem might not be adequately addressed.
When you go to a physician, you go to explain what it is YOU are experiencing–where YOU hurt–what YOUR problem is. You do that by talking [...]
WHEN YELLING IS A PATTERN
YELLING AT CHILDREN
This is a topic that has meaning for everyone. All of us have raised our voices, probably more than once. No, I did not come from a home of screaming parents or siblings. However, I do see many families and couples who yell a lot at each other, [...]
In “Sorry,” Part 1, I mentioned that apology is rare in some marriages. Why is that? After all, during courtship couples create a bond they dearly desire and strive to protect. I have heard many couples mention that apology occurred more frequently during courtship than during the entire span of the marriage. Here are some thoughts about infrequent/absent apology.
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This issue of CounselorLetter will focus on apology.
Apparently Elton John was so accurate when he said, in one of his songs, “Sorry seems to be the hardest word.”
The complaint that apologies are offered too infrequently and insincerely is near the top of the list couples mention in my office. The desire for, and the [...]
