“YOU JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND!” Your conflicts sometimes lead to painful or bitter fights.  When all is said and done after your difference du jour, you both feel frustrated, hurt, dejected and misunderstood.  You both know you will repeat your familiar but painful scenario in the near future; it’s a matter of when, not if.  You […]

All parents want to raise kids with the ability to make good decisions.  One of the crucial elements required of parents is this:  Parents must first understand the difference between discipline and obedience. Check out the video below, and you will be a step closer to well disciplined kids who will make better decisions.

CONSIDERATION VS. PERMISSION Don’t you hate to approach your spouse/partner with questions that can elicit the answer “NO!”?   For example: “Honey, is it OK if I …(fill in the blank)?”  Or, “Can I …(fill in the blank)?”   Some of you guys out there, more than once, have implored your partner/spouse:  “Can I go bowling tonight?”  […]

Immediately Reduce Conflict By 50%–Here’s How In the physician’s office you’re not likely to query your doctor about his/her ailments.  If you did, your own problem might not be adequately addressed. When you go to a physician,  you go to explain what it is YOU are experiencing–where YOU hurt–what YOUR problem is.  You do that […]

In “Sorry,” Part 1, I mentioned that apology is rare in some marriages. Why is that? After all, during courtship couples create a bond they dearly desire and strive to protect. I have heard many couples mention that apology occurred more frequently during courtship than during the entire span of the marriage. Here are some thoughts about infrequent/absent apology.