The file below is an audio file, approximately one hour in length.  It is Dr. Jim Hutt being interviewed by Dr. Peter Pearson of the Couples Institute, in Menlo Park, CA. The subject of the interview: Integrity: The Core of Relationships.  Even thought it’s long, give it a listen, and post […]

Ever wondered about couples counseling?  Just exactly who goes to it and why?  Or, maybe you’ve been in couples/marital counseling/therapy for a while, and it just isn’t getting you anywhere, or at least it doesn’t seem so.   Well, Dr. Goulston, one the Psychology Today bloggers, has something to say to say about this.  Check […]

The focus of this post is to elaborate on two related themes: One, the differences between resentful compliance and commitment; Two, how understanding those differences can alter the course of a relationship. Resentful Compliance Resentful compliance is an agreement that is not an agreement, but sounds like one.  Right away you can see the potential […]

One of the most painful and difficult experiences to recover from is that of betrayal. Obviously, infidelity is one form of betrayal, but there are many others as well.  Rather than list the possible range of betrayals, do the following: 1.  Find a pen or pencil and some paper so you can take some notes. […]

Change your Thinking- Improve Conflict Management If you really want to improve your communication skills, particularly related to conflict management, it’s crucial to begin with changing your thinking.  For the moment, forget about finding new skills, getting new tools.  Start with changing your thinking. New thinking helps create new and effective patterns of conflict management, […]