Conflict Perspectives Conflict in committed relationships is ubiquitous. All manner of resolution and management skills are at our disposal, but perhaps the one element we focus on the least is conflict perspective. When in conflict, regardless with whom, three distinct perspectives are possible. One, we can view the situation from only our own perspective. Two, […]
Two people, committed to living together, for the rest of their lives–WOW! We sure could all use some support, because this is not easy stuff. Problem is, it is very hard to get support for something that we seldom, if ever talk about, except in a counseling room. So here’s my question to all of […]
In my practice, I see so many couples who say they are seeking help for improving their communication skills. They work so hard adding to their communication tool belt, but typically feel disappointed that their relationships don’t seem to improve consistent with the number of communication techniques they’ve acquired. Well, that’s because there is so much more than at play […]
Thrive As A Couple or Suffer Alone As Individuals Alright, so here’s a simple idea, with big implications. By the way, this idea came to me by way of my friend and colleague, Dr Peter Pearson, co-founder along with Dr. Ellyn Bader, of the Couples Institute in Menlo Park, CA. Alright, so here’s the deal: […]
Expectations Don’t Work In Marriage Jim Hutt, Ph.D. What would you think if I told you there is no place in a healthy relationship for expectations? Well, that’s exactly what I’m telling you. You may, or may not, have heard the adage that goes like this: an expectation is a resentment under construction. And here’s […]
