November 11th, 2008
Immediately Reduce Conflict By 50%–Here’s How In the physician’s office you’re not likely to query your doctor about his/her ailments. If you did, your own problem might not be adequately addressed. When you go to a physician, you go to explain what it is YOU are experiencing–where YOU hurt–what YOUR problem is. You do that […]
Tags: communication, communication skills, conflict resolution, couple in conflict, Couples, help for couples, intimacy, marital conflict, Marriage
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July 21st, 2008
In “Sorry,” Part 1, I mentioned that apology is rare in some marriages. Why is that? After all, during courtship couples create a bond they dearly desire and strive to protect. I have heard many couples mention that apology occurred more frequently during courtship than during the entire span of the marriage. Here are some thoughts about infrequent/absent apology.
Tags: Apology, Couples, relatiionship, Relationships, sorry
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July 14th, 2008
CounselorLetter This issue of CounselorLetter will focus on apology. Apparently Elton John was so accurate when he said, in one of his songs, “Sorry seems to be the hardest word.” The complaint that apologies are offered too infrequently and insincerely is near the top of the list couples mention in my office. The desire for, […]
Tags: Apology, Couples, Relationships, sorry
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July 7th, 2008
CounselorLetter DIFFERENTIATION & PERSONAL INQUIRY Differentiation is a clinical term, and when therapists talk or write about it, it often leads to confusion. I’m going to try anyway, because I think the concept is a good one, and can be helpful for couples who are trying to make their relationship more satisfying. It is a […]
Tags: conflict, Couples, differentiation, prsonal inquiry
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June 30th, 2008
CounselorLetter Blame & Defensiveness Damage Relationships Conflict is unavoidable. We all face it daily whether with a spouse, sibling, friend, employer, boyfriend, girlfriend or stranger. Blame is one element of conflict that tends to inhibit conflict management. What is Blame? When viewed from one perspective, blame is the placing of responsibility on the object or […]
Tags: Blame, conflict, Defensiveness, Relationships
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